Comments on: What would a mother giraffe do with a teen with LD? http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/2010/07/mother-giraffe-teen-ld/ College Success for Students with Learning Disabilities Thu, 09 Sep 2010 17:41:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Hadassah Foster http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/2010/07/mother-giraffe-teen-ld/comment-page-1/#comment-81 Hadassah Foster Wed, 11 Aug 2010 21:30:57 +0000 http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/?p=799#comment-81 Balancing help and challenges, in the right way, the right amount, at the right time is not easy. Most especially when the right amount and time changes from day to day. The most important tools I have in my "parent toolkit" are: the ability to listen, acceptance of my non-perfection, the belief that falling down is how my child learned to walk, and the knowledge when I don't get a task right the first time - I'll have another chance to do it again. I parcel out the challenges and I parcel out the help. Sometimes my teen complains when I refuse to assist - especially when she wants help in an area of weakness. It's hard to see her struggle. But its wonderful to see her work her way through to success. Balancing help and challenges, in the right way, the right amount, at the right time is not easy. Most especially when the right amount and time changes from day to day.

The most important tools I have in my “parent toolkit” are: the ability to listen, acceptance of my non-perfection, the belief that falling down is how my child learned to walk, and the knowledge when I don’t get a task right the first time – I’ll have another chance to do it again.

I parcel out the challenges and I parcel out the help.
Sometimes my teen complains when I refuse to assist – especially when she wants help in an area of weakness. It’s hard to see her struggle. But its wonderful to see her work her way through to success.

]]> By: Joan Azarva http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/2010/07/mother-giraffe-teen-ld/comment-page-1/#comment-39 Joan Azarva Wed, 14 Jul 2010 15:25:16 +0000 http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/?p=799#comment-39 Pete, I believe John's e-mail refers to students being enabled by parents' actions, i.e.waking them in the AM, reminding them of due dates, taking late work to school, etc. Resource room help, if done correctly, should EMPOWER, not enable; it can be critical to the success of our kids. Any student who has been "dependent" on the resource room throughout high school had better make certain they select a college where tutoring (specific to students with LD) is available. Pete,
I believe John’s e-mail refers to students being enabled by parents’ actions, i.e.waking them in the AM, reminding them of due dates, taking late work to school, etc.

Resource room help, if done correctly, should EMPOWER, not enable; it can be critical to the success of our kids. Any student who has been “dependent” on the resource room throughout high school had better make certain they select a college where tutoring (specific to students with LD) is available.

]]> By: Pete Simon http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/2010/07/mother-giraffe-teen-ld/comment-page-1/#comment-38 Pete Simon Wed, 14 Jul 2010 12:06:06 +0000 http://www.conquercollegewithld.com/?p=799#comment-38 Having worked in special education as a school psychologist for over 15 years I have seen both ends of the spectrum. Some students become dependent on the help they receive in resource and some students strive and push themselves to be the best they can be within their disability. It is my opinion that with proper identification of a student's strengths and limiters along with taking the time to help identify that student's dream (What they want to get out of their education.) one can facilitate motivation from a student who is not making progress. Unfortunately and often student's self-esteem is either beaten down or stagnant due to negative experiences in school or simply because they realize they aren't the best readers or writers. Their dreams die with this. It doesn't have to be that way most students I find are more than excited when someone takes the time and attention to help them dream again. Pete http://educationalconsultingsolutions.vpweb.com/ http://educationalconsultingsolutions.blogspot.com/ Having worked in special education as a school psychologist for over 15 years I have seen both ends of the spectrum. Some students become dependent on the help they receive in resource and some students strive and push themselves to be the best they can be within their disability.

It is my opinion that with proper identification of a student’s strengths and limiters along with taking the time to help identify that student’s dream (What they want to get out of their education.) one can facilitate motivation from a student who is not making progress.

Unfortunately and often student’s self-esteem is either beaten down or stagnant due to negative experiences in school or simply because they realize they aren’t the best readers or writers. Their dreams die with this. It doesn’t have to be that way most students I find are more than excited when someone takes the time and attention to help them dream again.

Pete
http://educationalconsultingsolutions.vpweb.com/
http://educationalconsultingsolutions.blogspot.com/

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